Grief occurs when you lose someone or something significant in your life. It’s not limited to losing a friend or family member, as a person can also grieve the loss of a house, job, or a beloved pet. Grief takes a long time to overcome and that’s okay. Sometimes you feel you are okay and then you go somewhere and it triggers a memory, a scent, an expression and boom you’re back to feeling like the world is in black and white.
For me thinking about how I was going to get through the next month, or the next year was overwhelming. Something my father-in-law said to me was “take one day at a time”. It’s okay to be sad and it’s okay to allow yourself to be happy. Being happy doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten or moved on. It’s what our loved ones in Heaven would want us to do. It’s finding and accepting that happiness that’s hard.
As with anything challenging in life, it’s important to admit that we are in a difficult emotional place and taking small baby steps forward. Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman provides small daily reflections. There’s no judgment in these meditations, just some words of wisdom to get you through the day.